Does life have a point? In the end will your 90 years on the planet earth mean anything or just be another 90 years. If you meet someone how do you know that they are “the one.” There are millions upon billions of people out there how do you know after sampling just a hand full. When they say fate will bring us back, in time. Does fate do all the work or do the two individuals have to poke it to maybe move things along or make sure things happen. What if thing were left to fate; would things get down.
I guess what I am asking is that to leave someone is hard but, is it hard to let go or just prolong the heart break.
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Your post has prompted some interesting questions (within me, anyway)...
Where does this idea of 'true love' / 'the one' come from? You have a good point in considering the number of people on this planet, and the number we actually come into contact with.
And fate, as well, is something that we can always work with or work against, believe in, not believe in... but I'm not sure what the difference would be between all those options. Believe in fate and things may go well for you or it may well... that's fate. Fight against your circumstances and it may be your fate to do so. Don't fight against it, accepting it as fate, and you may have picked inaction regardless of whether you believe in fate or not... how does the belief in 'fate' change your behavoir and feelings towards your situtation? I suppose this is a question you are asking as well.
Speaking from personal experience, I feel like a lot of the time you have to meet situations half way. If you strongly believe in "the one", you may be finding that problems with other individuals are exagurated because you feel like they should be "perfect" if they are, in fact "the one". On the other hand, if you have really low expectations, you might not be very happy either. I think it's good to try relationships with some different types of people... try to figure yourself out, etc. Eventually you might encounter someone that isn't perfect, but you do get along with quite well... and from there you can work out any problems between you two.
But more philosophically speaking, the idea of "the one" is very pushed by mainstream western society, and I wonder the extent to which this sets up unrealistic expectations of relationships with people. (Similarly, relationships are presented in a fairly specific way concerning gender roles, rules concerning what types of relationships can be established with other people, and so on. On the one hand, these provide guidance, but on another hand, they trap people into doing what is socially acceptable, and not necessarily what is appropriate for them and their parnter(s)).
Maybe this is helpful, maybe not. Hopefully it is interesting.
mekyla.
AH, The Comfort of Fate
I find that at times life demands difficult decissions, especially when it comes to relationships. As well, at times I find life and people unpredictable. Personally I do not rationally believe in fate, but I find I fall back onto it because it is very comforting when pressed with difficult decisions. Fate gives me the distance to allow time to help make a difficult decision. Usually it is not fate that helped bring people together or apart but people's choices and actions, how people change and develop with time.